Tired at work.. i wonder if time will stop for those who do not have much plans to get married yet..haha..i've come to the age group where attending wedding functions is a norm.. slightly eariler than those in the other generation, or rather some people are fortunate to be able to find their other half early and spend a larger % of their life span together.. i've 3 secondary friends , 1 church mate, and 2 primary sch friends getting rom since jan 09; and all of them are the same age as me.. not including a few mothers' in the grp.. maybe they are indeed the few lucky ones :)
i've always wanted to start a family of my own since young... i thought i would marry young when i was 21 but i guess as the years goes by, things changes, things happen, my mindset changes, broken marriages i saw; some people came and left leaving a mark, some never did left but stood still like a rock, some came;left but i didn't realised it at all..i used to think that a marriage is just between 2 person living together; compromising, respecting, loving each other and sharing everything they have..just a simple happily ever-after bond, but in actual fact a marriage is indeed more and much much more than that.. esp if both family clashes.. in all ways.. love really does not conquers all.. when the gap is too huge to be filled up with love, endurance, compromises and most importantly of all things, patience..
So why the sudden flow of thoughts...recently went to some ex-colleagues gathering a few wks bk and catch up with some old frens.. friend D got married in 2005 to a wonderful man, P, in the same dept whom we girls all known him to be a nearly near perfect guy when she was 25.. in 2009, during a gathering, she told us that she is settling her divorce procedures with her P.. reason being, he is the only son and she has no choice but to move in with their family inclusive of e parents and his sister, but at that point of time, she thought too, love could conquer all.. she worked from morning to night and take care of the household from night to 2-3 am.. and the cycle goes on for 3 years before she gave up.. it was much worst than she expected.. despite the fact that the husband is still as nice as before.. but living with ppl whom do not place her in the 1st place drains her.. not being able to be herself in the house drains her.. being polite and on your toes 24 hrs drains her.. how many of us can stand being scolded/constantly being nagged by someone whom are not ur parents and you cant talk back at them..if not, their relatives n them will comment that u're an evil n disrespectful dil.. she could endure, for that few longs year..but when she realise her husband wont stand on her side and this is gonna be her life...she broke down and is left with nothing now.. just a broken dream.. with no one to help her pick them up... this just shows how fragile life can be.. morale: love does not conquer all, afterall.. but life still has to go on..
11:13:00 PM
The Gurl
